Do you start off with a bang and then after a month or two lose your motivation??
First off, I want you all to know, I am EXTREMELY PROUD of you. You have been on this journey for over 2 months now. That is something to cherish and acknowledge. But you also need to realize this journey is a long one and just like any long voyage, you will encounter bumps in the road. Some will be physical and some will be mental. It's okay. This is ALL part of changing and learning. It is impossible to be going 100 miles an hour all the time. You will have periods that you are totally balls to the wall and full of motivation and hope. And then there are times you will hit a wall. It's something that is a FACT and WILL happen no matter how strong your will and you need to NOT take it as a weakness within you.
This life change is exhausting both physically and mentally and it takes constant work and effort, sometimes that wanes a bit. The strength inside of you is what gets you through that. It's never weakness that slows us down, there's ALWAYS strength there...it just gets overshadowed by obstacles sometimes. And it's okay.
I've been hearing a lot lately from some of you that you feel GUILTY. You absolutely need to chuck that emotion in the garbage can. Guilt is a destructive emotion that demands negativity and needs self-loathing to live. It will get you NOWHERE and it will throw a wrench in the works. There is NOTHING to feel guilty about. When you hit a wall, you find a door. Lean on me. Lean on the other girls. Write in a journal. Find inspiration from somewhere. Look through old pictures, find the thinner girl you want to be again or look at the 'fat' pictures and tell yourself this is over. You are done with her. Whatever you need to do. Talk to me. I'm not promising I can catapult you out of your funk but I have lived this and I lived through it alone. If I can do it alone, you surely can do this with a support system. I'm telling you, you CAN do this. Don't let your head fuck things up for you. Use it to your advantage.
I know this might sound extreme but you need to look at yourself as a WARRIOR. Silly as you may think that sounds, you are in the fight of your life here. You are fighting for a chance to be healthy and you are fighting for a chance to be HAPPY. This is it girls. And it's a war. You need to take one battle at a time. Some you will win and some you will lose. It's ok. It's whats SUPPOSE TO HAPPEN.
It's unrealistic to think you are going to fly through this journey with no hiccups. If that were the case, every fucking person on this planet would be lean and healthy. This shit is hardcore. It will make you cry, it will make you rejoice. It's an emotional roller coaster. It's SUPPOSE to be that way. It's a JOURNEY. Not a walk in the park.
Stop feeling guilty for being human. Stop feeling guilty for losing your way. Stop feeling guilty. PERIOD. It's a useless emotion that will steer you down the wrong path.
I want to have a luncheon so we can enjoy each other, talk about the problems that have arose and provide a time we can connect and laugh and tone this down a bit. You are all part of something bigger than yourselves. The SBWG isn't just a bunch of women exercising. This is a group of amazing and WORTHY beautiful women who have created something miraculous and are chasing their dreams. We have created a sense of belonging and connectedness to one another. We are all searching for the same thing. Happiness. With life, but mostly within ourselves. This is a war worth fighting for. And I'm gonna help you fucking win it.
We as women have a strong, almost primal urge, to fix everything and to DO everything. We put everyone first and foremost and justify ignoring our own needs because that's just the way it is suppose to be.
All these things you do for yourself is a HUGE lesson and message to those around you. And stop feeling bad if you miss a day or a week. Get back on track. Stop feeling guilty that you slip and are not as careful or motivated as other days. Get back on track. That is yet another screaming out loud message to all around you (BUT ESPECIALLY TO YOURSELF) that nothing will keep you down. And that when you hit a wall, you don't give up, you find a door.
Stay strong my sexy bitches, Mama loves you ♥ ♥ xoxoxo
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