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And in regards to lesser acquaintances and strangers, believe me when I say, they don't give a shit. They're far too busy battling all of the stress that's clunking around in their own brains and way too enrapt in their own lives to worry about how big your ass is. Trust me on this.
Don't be fooled into thinking that your extra weight somehow makes you the center of the universe.
Whether you need to lose 200 pounds or you're fit and trim, people think about you the same amount of time... and it's not a lot. You're lucky if you get a few minutes in people's crowded minds.
When I was 262 pounds I was so consumed with my weight I thought everybody else was too. Nobody cared. And even if by chance I'd run into someone from high school or college and then they ran to tell somebody that Gabby got fat. Why the hell did I care?
Don't be fooled into thinking that your extra weight somehow makes you less than anybody else.
I made that mistake. For 10 years I convinced myself that I was weak and undeserving. I felt like if I could let myself get to be so overweight, then something must be really wrong with me. I failed to accept the fact that I was human.
Life throws punches. Shit happens. Forgive yourself and move on. Believe me, you'll have plenty more mistakes that you'll make throughout your life. It's best to learn now how to forgive yourself so you can gear up for the next time you drop the ball. After all, practice makes perfect.
Through every stage of your life, you're gonna drop the ball. We all do. You wanna know what makes us stand out from the rest and what makes us a better version of ourselves? When we pick the damn thing up.
Don't just kick it around on the ground feeling sorry for yourself. Pick that bastard up and shoot for the hoop again. One of these times you're going to make the shot. Nothin' but net, baby.
It wasn't until AFTER I lost all of my weight that I finally and truly understood that my weight didn't matter to anybody but me. Nobody in my life looked at me like I was a failure because I was fat. And nobody in my life loved me any more when I lost the weight. I was still Gabby to those who loved me. For all those years, what the scale said had no bearing on anyone but me.